God’s Love: AGAPE (2)

(Life After Pentecost XII)

1 Corinthians 13:1-7

 

A theologian said, “Every person is born with God-shaped hole in his heart. When we try to fill it with anything other than God, the result will be only temporary satisfaction. God is the only perfect fit for the hole.”

 

I heard John Ortberg, pastor of the Menlo Park Presbyterian Church preach to a large group of pastors. He said, “We were made for soul satisfaction. We cannot live chronically with dissatisfied souls. And if we do not find satisfaction in God and His goodness to us, we will look for satisfaction someplace else. We cannot live chronically with dissatisfied souls no matter how hard we push ourselves. And that’s why a lack of soul satisfaction always has the effect of making sin look good.”

 

Both quotations are important and they stress one point:  humanity is searching for something. There is an emptiness in us and we are trying to fill it with anything. Unfortunately, we are never satisfied.

 

Paul has a warning for the Corinthians.  They were full of spiritual gifts; they were “religious”. Yet this is very dangerous. Sometimes we become religious without God.  Rev. Jonathon Swift (1667-1745) said, “We have just enough religion to make us hate, but not enough to make us love one another.”

Paul is challenging them and us today. We need the love of God manifested by Jesus Christ in our lives, in our empty lives so that anything we say, do, and serve will have meaning and aim. 

 

So what is Agape?

 

Paul begins with patience. (Yergaynamid e)

1- Love is patient: the Greek word is makrothumein. It is used for being patient with human beings. We need to learn to suffer with people a long time, no matter how much evil others will do to us. This means to be slow in anger. Oh, I need to learn this. I need this so much. Usually we jump to conclusions quickly.

Abraham Lincoln appointed Stanton as War Secretary. Lincoln new that Stanton was critical about him; even Stanton called Lincoln the “original gorilla.” Yet Lincoln appointed him; he believed Stanton could do this job. When Lincoln was shot to death, in his funeral Stanton said, “…the world now loses the greatest ruler of men it has ever seen.” Love is patient.

Can you ask God to give you such love?

2- Love is kind. (Kaghtser e)

The original meaning is that love is sweet to all. We can have tough love but also we can be kind. It is a wonderful way to represent Christ by being kind to each other.

 

3- Love does not envy. (Chi Nakhantsir)

Someone said that there are two kinds of people: those who are millionaires and those who would like to be one. There are also two kinds of envy. The first is the envy about having things. The second is grumbling and criticizing that others do have what we don’t. Marriages are destroyed because of envy. Relationships are destroyed because of envy. “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” (Prov. 14:30)

 

4- Love does not boast (chi korozanar)

You cannot love someone by imposing yourself on that person. God does not love us that way.

 

5- Love is not proud, (Chi hebardanar)

In another translation, it is not inflated with his own importance.

I am important. My needs are the most important things. I am the center of my life. Soul satisfaction, looking for my own satisfaction. This is not love. This is the destruction of love and relationships.

One of the vices of pride is that it introduces misunderstandings. Have you seen people who always think they are right. I am always right.

Once a man went to the opera. It was new musical piece written and was sung for first time. While he was listening, he said to the man who was sitting next to him. “Wow, she is singing very bad.”

The man said, “That is my wife.”

He quickly changed, “What I meant that whatever she is singing is very bad.”

The man said quietly, “I wrote it.”

 

6- Love is not rude (Anvayel varmounk chounenar)

In another translation, “it does not behave gracelessly.”

Another meaning for grace in Greek is charm. God’s love can be seen in the face of a person, in his/her actions and words.

 

7- Love is not self seeking (Irene Chi pndrer)

In another translation, “Love does not insist upon its rights.”

The Greek words literally mean self-worship.

There are two kinds of people, those who always insist on their rights, and those who remember their responsibilities.  According to Barclay, there are those who always think life owes them and those who never forget what they owe to life. One of the important qualities that God teaches us is to love the other without expectations, called UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. As a pastor, I teach this value and counsel couples. Stop asking, “What’s for me”. Unfortunately, we are raised with this concept: interests. “Scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours.”

 

8- Love is not easily angered (pargoutian chi kekervir)

God’s love helps us to control our temperament. There are classes about anger management. Well, here is a good solution:  have God’s love. It is good medicine for temperament.

 

9- Love keeps no record of wrong (charoutioun chi khorhir)

In another translation, “it does not store up the memory of any wrong.”

The key word is store up (Logizeshthai in Greek). It is the word the accountant uses. It is the word used for entering up an item in a ledger so that it will not be forgotten.

It hurts me when I try to reconcile families or people. They keep remembering the old things that can be put behind and look forward. If we look continuously to the wrongs of people, we will be filled bitterness and anger.

There is nothing wrong in evaluating the old, starting with a new page and trying not to repeat the same old mistakes. But Paul is saying something else. Constantly going back and reminding ourselves of the old stories will not help.  I have seen in many they cannot forget the old. Whenever we do any conversation, we go back to the old stories.

 

10- Love does not delight in evil (aniravoutian vera chi khentar)

Love does not find any pleasure in evil- doing. It does not rejoice when someone is falling down, when someone is wrong. I am saddened when I see a person is in trouble, stealing, drugs, prostitution, and so on. I can rejoice when someone is caught in some kind of addiction. Although, I want that person to stop when he is hurting himself and the society, but I cannot rejoice, in fact we all need to weep and mourn for our sins and for our sinful life.

 

Now for the next week we will continue with this chapter. We have 5 characteristics of love coming up. Love rejoices with the truth, protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. Love never fails.

 

Let us summarize.

We have an emptiness in our lives. If we try to fill it with whatever we can find, it leads us more to sin and falling in the trap of an unsatisfied life. The emptiness that we have can only be filled with Jesus Christ and his presence, which teaches us God’s love. God is love. Only way to find God’s love is through Jesus Christ and his presence in us. Even if we can have all the gifts of the Spirit and no love, we are nothing.

Please examine your life this morning and in the coming week. Where am I short in experiencing God’s love in my life?

Maybe there is a sin that you are not bringing to God. That sin is becoming a hindrance to grow, to have His love in you. Confess it to Him. Surrender to Him. Allow God’s love to overflow in you.

 

Amen.