Christ at the Workplace and the Family (2)

Krisdos Cor/ady.iin yv Undanikin Me]

(God's Magnificent Work through Christ)

Ephesians 6:1-9

 

We are going to watch some interviews I conducted last Sunday.

I asked our church kids the following two question:

-What do you appreciate most about your father and mother?

-How do you honor your father and mother?

 

Children towards parents (6:1-3)

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” "Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."

 

Do you realize that Paul gives similar attention to children as he does to parents? Unlike the Roman traditions at that time, Paul treats children with dignity and respect. Jesus is our example: “Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God.” (Matt 19:14)

 

Obey and Honor

To obey means to listen and follow. It is a joy for any parent to I see their children obey Them. We read  about obedience to parents  in the fifth commandment, “Honor your father and mother.”

 

I will address you, young people.

Honoring, respecting and obedience is part of your daily discipline.

It shapes your character. Sometimes you need to obey your parents without understanding why you should do this or that. I know that is hard. However, many years later you can find out why it was important to obey.

-I loved to play the piano but hated to practice. I did not understand why my father and mother insisted that I practice. All of my friends played outside and I had to practice.  Many years later when I was a music student in college, I wrote to my father thanking him for his insistence to practice.

Paul is saying by obedience we do not just honor our parents, but we honor God.  We will eventually “enjoy long life on the earth.” We learn to obey Jesus. We learn to submit to each other. You see it starts from home. Our children learn doing this by observing their parents who obey the Lord.

 

Parents towards Children (6:4)

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

 

What a terrible thing to do when we “break” our children. How useful is it to provoke or exasperate them? We create hostility and eventually lose our child.

Children look up to their father and they visualize God through their biological father’s behavior.  Do you see how serious is our responsibility? Whatever we do they are watching us, they will learn from us.

Fathers and mothers, we have a major role in the family.

 

We need to understand that in the Old Testament children were taught about God at home. Parents were responsible for their children’s religious education. Today we think the Sunday school is the place. Perhaps it is true for the ones who do not have Christian parents.

How do we provoke or exasperate our children?

-We provoke them when we mistreat them. We think we are disciplining, but we are disciplining in anger. Nothing constructive will be accomplished in anger.

-We provoke them by having unreasonable expectations from our children. We become too demanding, too restrictive. Too many things to accomplish, piano, trumpet, ballet, softball…

Today I was listening on the radio news to a broadcast two the recent teenage suicide cases in Palo Alto. According to the school psychologist, one of the factors was the high pressure on children to have high academic standards, so that they could enter prestigious universities.

We should help our children to do their best, not your best, their best.

-We provoke them when we neglect them. This is the other extreme. Parents try to be providers but they forget the most important thing, to be with their children. We forget to ask them how they are doing; we forget to sit and talk with them. We forget to pray with them. No time.

 

So what is Paul’s instruction?

“Instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

I looked to the Greek word for “bring them up”. It means “to nourish up to maturity.”

This word in Greek is so rich that it is used to translate many Hebrew words used in the OT. Examples:

- Joseph’s story. When his land was in famine. His brothers came. His remarks to them were:

“And God sent me before you to preserve for you remnant in the earth, and to keep you alive by great deliverance… (Gen 45:7)

-In Psalm 23, “The Lord is our Shepherd. …leads me beside still waters.” Which means He nourishes me, provides for me, helps me when dangers surround me, he will lead me to find still water.

To keep alive and lead give great images of closeness and tenderness describing how parents should love and instruct their children.

Train them, says Paul. We need to enter to our children’s world to train them.

We I was in college, I had group of friends who ran with me 3 -4 miles to help me pass the PE requirements. They entered my world, at my level of running. They gradually built me up until I was able to run 3-4 miles.

Instruct them. You need to know your “material” to instruct them, whatever one will instruct. It is strange that we try to instruct them all areas of life, music, sport and education. When it comes to Christian education, we think it is the role of the pastor or the Sunday school teacher. That is not what the Bible teaches us. There comes also the role of parents to instruct children in their Christian life.

 

How does Paul finish the letter? He talks about the Armor of God. He knew that life was going to be tough. The Church, husbands and wives, children, workers, all of us need the armor of God to be ready to face challenges of the world.

 

I hope these sermons nourished you and gave you Christian instructions.

May the title God's Magnificent Work through Christ will be reality in our life.

Amen